A few weeks ago, Pete and I went to see the movie August: Osage County with Meryl Streep and Julia Roberts. The movie was widely touted as a close look at a dysfunctional family, and that it was. And if truth be told, Meryl Streep, in my opinion, deserves an Academy Award for her role in the movie.
Also, if you watch TV, you’ll certainly see many dysfunctional families highlighted. Dysfunctional is the latest buzz word. And for good reason. We are all dysfunctional in part–all broken, all from families that are often not as God desires us to be. We can relate.
But my questions are these: What does a God-centered functional family look like? And what do we do when we fall short of this ideal?
I look to the Bible for answers.
First, what does a functional family look like?
1. Family members are KIND to one another.
2. Family members really LISTEN to one another, not just wait for a turn to spout their opinion or vent frustration.
3. Family members find ways to HELP rather than enable or hurt one another.
4. Family members are engaging and AUTHENTIC rather than self-protective and secretive.
Second, what do we do when we blow it and fall short?
1. Ask for forgiveness and be willing to forgive and change.
2. Pray together as a family, asking for strength and guidance from the source of both.
3. Seek God’s face through prayer and Bible study EVERY day.
4. Get into a community of Christ-followers where we’ll be held accountable for specific actions and encouraged to try again another day.
Do you have ideas to add? We would love to hear from you.